My Approach
I believe the body is not a problem to solve.
Not a machine to optimize.
Not a performance to perfect.
I believe the body is an ecosystem.
A place of grief, longing, brilliance, knowledge, resilience, resistance and immense aliveness.
I come to Somatic Sex Education through a queer mixed-heritage lineage.
Through the bodies that learned to survive by shape-shifting.
Through the sex workers, radical disruptors, lovers and gender-expansive beings who taught me that eroticism is not separate from liberation.
Through dance floors, gardens, heartbreak, surviving sexual trauma, community care, tenderness, chosen family and the holy intelligence of sensation.
This work asks:
What happens when we stop pathologizing eroticism,
and begin listening to it?
What happens when pleasure is no longer something we earn through productivity, beauty, compliance or some unachievable ideal of perfection?
What happens when we allow eroticism to become relational, ecological, messy, collective and honest?
I believe change can emerge through slowness.
Through attunement.
Through noticing.
Through (re)claiming our capacity to communicate, receive and feel.
I want to co-create spaces where queer and trans people of the Global Majority can arrive just as they are, and learn that they are worthy of touch, care, and belonging.
I see every day as an opportunity to embody Audre Lorde’s teachings that erotic energy is life force. And that this life force can be used to subvert systems of oppression.
I am perpetually learning from human and other-than-human kin.
From mycelium and fruit.
From the wisdom of the plants, waters, winds and luminaries.
I believe Somatic Sex Education can be a practice of remembering we belong to ourselves and to each other.
And I believe that is sacred, revolutionary work.
To honor the wisdom, value, brilliance and skills of Sex Workers is to acknowledge that I wouldn't be here without them. Sex Workers have had to become experts in reading bodies, navigating power, modeling boundaries and consent, and adapting to shifting needs within violent and oppressive systems that dehumanize and criminalize them. They carry skills that are embodied, relational, and often learned at great risk.
When we extract practices without naming their origins, we risk erasing the very humans who made them possible. To me, honoring lineage is about refusing erasure, resisting co-optation, and staying accountable to the roots of this sacred work.
Centering anti-oppression values within Somatic Sex Education is essential because bodies do not experience harm or safety in equal ways. Somatic work that ignores power can become another site of coercion, subtly reinforcing who is allowed to feel, to speak, to desire, to take up space.
Anti-oppression somatics invite us to build capacity rather than compliance. It asks us to slow down, listen, repair, and redistribute power in real time. The counter-normative ethics that I aspire to embody in everything I do are not a destination. They are an approach - a set of ongoing practices that require humility, adaptability, and relationship. They live in questions rather than answers. They ask us to stay in the conversation when things get messy. They invite us to practice discernment instead of righteousness, curiosity instead of certainty.
When I practice co-creating spaces that make room for emergence, something opens towards liberating forms of intimacy, kinship, care, and desire to take shape beyond what we have been taught is possible. We make room for relationships that do not fit dominant scripts. We let the body teach us what safety, connection, and freedom can look and feel like - again and again, moment to moment.
For me, to be of service to queer community as a Somatic Sex Educator is to choose erotic aliveness over binaries of right/wrong or good/bad. And to remember that the most powerful teachings I carry were born in places the (cishet colonial patriarchal) world tried to erase.
My Work is Rooted in Solidarity with All Sex Workers...
